I ran a race this past weekend. I trained for it from early January and began to get excited/ nervous as the big day started creeping up. The race, The Rattler, took place in Colorado Springs and is a 15.5 mile trail run that I thought that I may be a good target for the first quarter of the year.
I was wrong.
Turns out, The Rattler would be the single most difficult undertaking I have ever paid to participate in. Admittedly, I don’t have a solid point of reference, but I assume it to be much tougher physically than childbirth.
I knew going in that the weather was going to be a little rough. It was. What I didn’t consider was how bad the weather was going to render the course’s condition. The mud on the course was uniquely clay. It was made of the very stuff that Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore would have made sweet pottery with. Each step in this stuff created a weird suction that tempted shoe from foot. When my foot disagreed, its reward was several ounces of tagalong mud. Layers built up step by step, making my feet heavier as we went along.
Rain and snow made clothes heavier and made the first half dozen miles very chilly. A slip in the mud three miles in cost me an iPod and a sweatshirt. Losing the sweatshirt made me colder but losing the iPod let me live between my ears for the next several hours. Losing the iPod was much worse.
Around mile 13 sat the final checkpoint. It is the first time in any race I have ever run, that I considered quitting. Had there been a way off the mountain that didn’t involve my feet, I may have taken it. There wasn’t so I didn’t. I pushed and finished.
I didn’t set any records, not in a good way anyway. I came in around 100th out of 150 finishers. I came in a full half hour after my running buddies (they had beer, so I think they didn’t mind). My initial reaction after finishing was “that’s a one-time deal, never again”. Often times, finishing a race offers a feeling of euphoria with a smattering of pride. This race left me feeling a little weak and disappointed in my performance.
Let me tell you something. Running for four hours then being disappointed in yourself sucks.
There is a lesson in here, ladies. The big takeaway is to give yourself a break every once in a while. As I got a little distance from the race, I started to think a little differently. We sat down for a well-earned breakfast and time with friends. The benefit was two-fold. Spending time with Katie and Jon and Randy after made me remember one of the reasons for running these types of races is the comradery. Talking with friends after about the race and how tough it was is fun. A shared experience like The Rattler leaves plenty of room for self-depreciating jokes.
There is also the accomplishment. Four hours of trudging around the mountains in the rain is hard. Doing it in the rain and snow complicated it. Maybe I didn’t get the time I wanted and maybe I can allow myself to get down on myself a little bit about that but in the big picture, I accomplished something difficult. I trained for a few months for it which in itself is difficult. If you can’t celebrate your victories, even if they come with a bit of an asterisk, then you may not be prone to tackle the next one. So, maybe this thing wasn’t a “one and done” experience. Maybe I’ll see The Rattler again next year. Never can tell, but I won’t rule it out just yet.
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Monday, April 22, 2019
Tuesday, April 2, 2019
Lower Your Expecations and Save Your Weekend!
Expectations are a funny thing.
Not so long ago, my daughters played soccer to have a good time. They played in soccer tournaments for the opportunity to stay in a hotel and have unfettered access to a pool and the guarantee of dining out multiple times in a few days’ time. We paid a lot of money for tournaments, what we got was ice cream and chlorine.
Macy, my nine-year-old had a tournament in Denver this past weekend. We were sure to get a hotel with a pool for the kids and free breakfast for my wallet. In years past, the prospect of the hotel was enough. That just isn’t true anymore. She spent the days leading into the tournament talking about winning a medal, pitching shutouts and shots on goal. Ugh, who are you. Where is my little Star Wars fan?
A day or two before the tournament we got an email saying that a local team in my oldest age group needed players as well. Avery plays with a team that is a year older than she is, but she was excited to play with her own age and there were a number of kids that she had played with previously on the team.
But I knew in my heart of hearts that this little girl played for the love of the game. Winning and medals didn’t mean as much as it did to Macy, hell, it wasn’t even her team.
I’m a moron.
Avery started talking about how good this team was and that they had a real shot at the tourney. I knew this was going to be a long weekend.
The first day went okay, it was “fine” but not spectacular. Avery’s team got rolled in their first game. The other team was awake and looked to have drank at least a few cups of coffee before the game. Our girls looked like they had spent at least a few hours in the pool. Note: they had. They lost 3-1.
Macy played a couple of hours later. They were more awake. A lot more awake. They jolly-stomped the poor team they played. They won 6-0 and took their foot off the gas in the second half. The scoreboard didn’t reflect how bad it was on the field.
Avery was up next. The temperatures were dropping and even the most enthusiastic of parents were beginning to lose interest. Her team didn’t lose interest. They won their game 3-0 and the team played with the skill that Avery had talked about.
Macy had the last game of the day. It was against what may have been the best team in her age group. The parents knew it but the girls didn’t. Macy’s team looked good. They took a 1-0 lead into halftime, but the second half was a bit more interesting. The other team tied it up early in the second half, but Macy’s team put up the leading goal a few seconds later. The game hung with a one goal lead with almost no time left and a parent yelled “Girls! Only a minute left!”
Now, I don’t know what the parent hoped to accomplish, but I can tell you exactly what happened. Smiles spread across the girls faces. One girl raised her arms in victory. One audibly squealed. The other team heard it, too. But they didn’t raise their hands or squeal. They had what could be described as an ‘increased sense of urgency’. A couple of seconds later they ball was in the back of our net. 2-2 tie.
The loss for Avery’s team and the tie for Macy’s team meant that they had to count on other teams to get them into the finals. Avery’s team still had another game Sunday morning. Macy’s did not.
Avery’s team won the morning game 3-0. They had a shot. Macy’s team looked like a long shot. Both kids knew where their respective teams stood. Both were surprised, Avery not so pleasantly.
Avery found out at noon she wouldn’t have another game. We tried to console her in the fact that she finished third in a very tough division. She was consolable, but only to the point that she wasn’t ‘Old Yeller’ broken. Macy’s game wasn’t until three. It was going to be a long few hours.
In the interim, we found out that Macy’s team would be playing the upper team from our hometown, meaning that all of the girls on Macy’s team tried out for that team and didn’t make it. There was a group pant soiling that took place among the parents. No one said it out loud, but we were all thinking the same thing. “We could beat traffic if we just forfeited the game.”
The game would go on. We sat anxiously as the game started. They had a tiger by the tail. They got to halftime with a surprising 1-0 lead. We kept waiting for the tiger to break free. A minute into the second half, the game was tied. “Uh oh” we thought to ourselves. We kept waiting for it to turn ugly, but that little group of girls kept the game exactly where it was. The game finished 1-1. Soccer allows for ties, right? Usually, but not in the finals.
It would be decided with a shoot-out. This was where the extreme size difference between their team and ours took full display. These sasquatches of children lined up five feet from our goalie and our little angels did the same with theirs. Long story short, they aren’t Cinderella stories because they always come though. They took second. Macy was crushed. Macy got a second-place medal. Avery was crushed.
These are two little girls who went through years of tournaments without winning a game. I remember one particularly bad one where Avery’s team didn’t score a goal. They never seemed upset back then.
Expectations are funny things.
The lessons here girlies? There’s a few. I like you being disappointed by losing and I like you having the expectation of winning. It’s healthy. On the flip side being leveled by losing isn’t great. Both of you played well, your teams did great and everyone involved had fun. Maybe you didn’t get every single thing you wanted out of it, but you should appreciate what you did get.
There is also something to be said for what you do with losing. You can sit and cry in the back of the car for an hour and a half. You can let it ruin the end of your spring break. Or, you can ask what happened. What went right and what went wrong. Celebrate your wins and evaluate what you can do to prevent your losses. Listen to the coach after the game and figure out what is needed to help your team next time.
All of that being said, winning medals is fun, winning tournaments is fun, I get it. So, don’t just hope to win them, work your little tushies off to make it happen. Keep working hard and it’ll happen for you.
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